I could’ve been another person

This is first hand from my mother who was there: I had just been born ‘normally’ but here was the thing. I was a third daughter, and one of our older relatives wasn’t happy. That aside…

…. the nurses weren’t happy for my Ma, and they were about to fix it.

My mother heard them discuss a baby switch with the lady next bed: she had just had a third son. So. The nurses were ready to start this process of switch ( before anyone’s husband got in the picture?) This is an absolutely true account; my ma was horrified and would not allow the discussion to proceed. What were they trying to do, strike a goodwill conscious baby switch between the two mothers? Was this the other women’s idea?

I cannot imagine any other mother than the one I have, have loved and been loved by. Gratitude Lord for the protection there.

Too many infant girls face untold horrors in nations that are subject to certain practices that involve dowry, etc.. why are people afraid to raise daughters?


I am brimming proud of mine; of every daughter everywhere. God forgive our sins of murder, hatred, and discrimination.

FMF Writers

20 thoughts on “I could’ve been another person

  1. I don’t know when will the mentality of such people change. Everytime I hear people treating girl child differently or just the fact that they hate it when a girl child is born in their homes, it makes me so sad.

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    1. I always think, we each have an influence of at least 1000 ppl? If my mindset can influence that much, and each of us… among our communities, that’s maybe a good start? We must celebrate every child, but ppl are so sticky about a female baby. Aarey, marriage expenses… and she is only a mehman here for a few days…
      It is scary,
      We have 2 daughters. We’re raising them like sons

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  2. So difficult to comprehend, that such a discussion even took place! Thank you for telling your story. (I have two daughters and a gay son, and couldn’t feel more proud or happy or blessed!)

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  3. In my family, the women out number the men. God would not have it any other way and neither would I. Your post reminds me of how blessed I am to be born into the family I have. I am thankful for the God who reveals to us our true worth and gives me and all women what we need to be who He created us to me, even with the discrimination we face because of our gender and, for some of us, the color of our skin. Visiting from FMF.

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    1. E.Adams … all that and skin… isnt it weird that in this age of intellect and reason we are at our worst? Sure glad there are people like you and that great family of yours where women outnumber😅 how wonderful. My apologies for this late response. Will visit soon. Stay blest, stay precious dear friend.


  4. Yes, yes, it is a blessing to the Universe to raise and value the merits of a daughter. At the age of 40 I had the gift of a daughter who is now 20. She is on a full scholarship and plans to work as a Dental Hygienist through Medical School. From the day she was born I made a point to boost her self esteem with praise, love and lots of attention. I made it a priority to empower her with Faith and Courage. At around 10 she requested a teen Bible. Our Sunday Breakfast and Church meetings were memorable. Quite often it was her motivating me to go when I had many excuses not to go. Most important of all, I made sure my daughter was comfortable with the word No, No Thank You…so women cave and compromise their values just to avoid the stress of an angry response or rejection just because they choose not to comply. A strong daughter is a gift, so love and appreciate her…

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    1. This is invaluable advice. The power to receive a ‘No…’ without caving in..
      What an asset you are to the world, as mom to yr daughter, as a daughter of God yrsrlf…
      Privileged to hear such as you.
      May yr voice be heard,
      Thankyou for being here.

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  5. Wow! What a story. And if your mother hadn’t heard the discussion they might really have gone through with it? I’m glad your mother wasn’t afraid to raise a daughter, and I’m sure she’s very proud of the woman you have grown up to be. Thanks for sharing.

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    1. No she wasn’t😇and am I glad. I’m not half the toughie she was, and my gran before her. My sisters are amazing women too. Me? I’m oh so basic. I do what I can. Thankyou so much for being here and your kind words. The world’s a better place for it. ❤


    1. Yes. I know. Shivers my spine each time I think of it. But that’s life and real in parts of our land. Even today. It steeps the act of love and responsibility, as parents and as a community. Sigh yes …love my kids too to the moon and back, though such is life in places ruled by either taboo, mindsets…

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